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Source: Robert Brown Stock/Shutterstock With people waiting longer than ever to get married, many choosing not to get married at all, and others ending up single later in life due to or widowhood, there are more single people than ever. During the 1960s, only 10% of American adults age 25 or over were unmarried; today,. Much research has suggested that, but it’s not clear if actually makes people happy, and it isn’t always the case that marriage is related to greater.

As with most things, there is unlikely to be a one-size-fits-all solution when it comes marriage and happiness. On the one hand, a spouse can offer valuable social support and help you combat. 1 On the other hand, relationships come with conflicts and disappointments that make people less happy.

2 So it is quite reasonable to assume that marriage can make some people happier, while other people may be better off remaining single. In a series of studies, Girme and colleagues set out to examine what type of people might be happier in a relationship. 3 In particular, they examined two types of social goals that people may have—a voidance goals and approach goals. 4 People with avoidance social goals don’t necessarily avoid relationships with others; they try to maintain relationships by avoiding conflicts. They want relationships, just without the messiness.

Unfortunately, those with avoidance tend to be more anxious and lonely and have more negative feelings about their relationships and. This may be because they pay a lot more attention to negative relationship events when they occur. 5 Someone high in avoidance goals is likely to react more poorly to a minor fight or a perceived slight than someone who doesn’t have those goals.

People also differ in the extent to which they have approach goals in their relationships. Those high in approach goals try to maintain their relationships by increasing intimacy and helping the relationship grow. 4,5 These two kinds of goals aren’t necessarily at odds with one another: You can be high on both approach and avoidance goals; high on one and low on the other; or low on both. So how does whether or not you’re happier when in a couple depend on these social goals? Girme and colleagues conducted two studies to test these associations. In the first, 187 undergraduate students completed measures of approach and avoidance social goals.

For avoidance goals, they rated how much they agreed with statements such as 'I try to avoid disagreements and conflicts with people close to me' and 'I try to make sure that nothing bad happens to my close relationships.' For approach goals, they rated items such as 'I try to enhance bonding and intimacy in my close relationships' and 'I try to move toward growth and development in my close relationships.'

They also rated how satisfied they felt with their lives every day for 10 days. The results showed that single people reported being less satisfied with their lives—but only those who were low on avoidance goals. For those who were high in avoidance goals, they were just as happy single or coupled.

Approach goals, on the other hand, weren’t related to whether or not coupledom made people more or less happy. In the second study, the researchers examined a nationally representative sample of 4,024 adults from New Zealand. Once again, they found that being in a relationship was associated with greater life satisfaction, but not for people who were high in avoidance goals. People higher in avoidance goals were just as happy single or coupled.

Approach goals mattered, too. While overall, people were happier being in a relationship than being single, this was especially true for people high in approach goals—and being single seemed to be harder on those with approach goals. Interestingly, approach goals only mattered in the second study. This might have to do with the age of the participants. In the first study, the participants were college students, who typically don’t have a long relationship history and may still be figuring out what they want from life.

In the second study, participants ranged from 18 to 94 years old with an average age of 50, so college-aged people were among the youngest studied. Thus, the two samples most likely differed in how serious and committed participants' relationships were. Some of the benefits of approach goals may become evident only later in life when those goals have helped people to create especially fulfilling long-term partnerships.

It’s also important to remember that this research still doesn’t tell us if being coupled actually caused those who were low in avoidance goals or high in approach goals to become happier. It could be that whatever factors caused these people to find partners also caused them to be happier with their lives. As my fellow PT contributor, Bella DePaulo, always points out,. We all know that are a tradeoff. We have to take the good with the bad. But people high in avoidance goals—people who try to avoid conflicts and issues in their relationships—are hit a lot harder by the 'bad.' If that describes you, then you really may be just as happy being single.

Gwendolyn Seidman, Ph.D. Is an associate professor of psychology at Albright College, who studies relationships and cyberpsychology. Follow her on for updates about social psychology, relationships, and online behavior. Read more articles by Dr.

References 1 Cohen, S., & Wills, T. (1985)., social support, and the buffering hypothesis. Psychological Bulletin, 98, 310–357. We always hurt the ones we love. Kowaliski (Ed.), Aversive interpersonal behaviors (pp.

New York, NY: Plenum 3 Girme, Overall, Faingataa, & Sibley, C. Happily single: The link between relationship status and well-being depends on avoidance and approach social goals. Social Psychological and Science, 1-9. Published only before print. Doi: 10.11615599828 4 Gable, S. Approach and avoidance social motives and goals.

Journal of Personality, 71, 175–222. L., & Gosnell, C. Approach and avoidance behavior in interpersonal relationships. Emotion Review, 5, 269–274.

I'm single and for the longest time I've been asking myself why do people want to be in a relationship. Google returns nothing for that. In real life the onky answer that makes sense to be is if you want kids, but I see a lot of couples without kids and who don't want them. Even when my single friends are looking, I ask why, aren't you happy right now, but the answer are aleays elusive, again except for the wanting if kids.

Anyhow, I'm asking around in case I eventually get a straight answer. I think it depends on your age.

Younger people may be more satisfied without a relationship if they don't have one already, but the human need to procreate is hard wired into us. I used to not worry about relationships. But now that I'm late middle aged, I'm scared of dying alone, although I honestly don't want to negotiate the way couples do on a day to day basis.

For example, if I want to take a nap, I take a nap. I can be spontaneous without having to check with my partner, or always having to 'share' my feelings. Yet the fear of being alone is still there. It's a real fear. I find myself saying 'So this is my life. This is what Its all come down to.

Just me in my little house. The phrase, 'dying alone' is vague, because when we look at it in a practical sense, everyone in this world does die alone. But I guess what bothers most single people (like myself) is the possibility of becoming chronically or terminally ill due to old age or whatever other reasons, and having to fend for yourself. I know staying healthy and preventing diseases is something we should all strive for, but life does not always turn out to be the way we want it. Yes, the spouse can die before the other.

And that's where the children come in. I am not saying children are entitled to help their elderly parents because it is their 'duty'. Most do it out of love. Recently, my dad underwent a heart procedure and after he returned home, he was still physically weak to tend to himself. Hence, I had to be by his side (I am an only child), made sure he took all his medications, helped with household chores etc.His health gradually returned to normal, but only after a few months of recuperation.

Tell me, how many of our friends would do the same? Amelie Soundtrack 320 Kbps Download. Plus, do note that our friends may have families themselves to take care of as well. You have some good valid points. However just like when a person loses eye sight and they have to develop other senses much better.those without children or without other significant ones, also develop other relationships that are just as good as if they were blood or love related. For example, there are a lot of nieces and nephews that take care of their aunts or uncles provided the aunts and uncles developed certain relationship. Even you can be taken care of by your friends kids because you were their god father or god mother etc and developed special relationship. It is all about relationships.

So yes being single has some downside, but having relationships with many different people is good whether married or with children. I know (and I am one of those) that are not close to my parents but I do take care of other elders who came to my life and were kind to me. Most women outlive men, so you will not have a man holding your hand as you die just because you are married or coupled. It's more likely that you will be taking care of a man for some time and then be there for him when he dies. Then, you mourn his life and have to learn to be on your own. If you have children you might be one of the few lucky ones to have one with you as you die. It's also a bad reason to have children.

You may be a poor parent or just have bad relationships with your children or they may be awful people. Maybe they will need you to take care of them if they are disabled. It is better to focus on building strong close friendships with people of all ages.

Check on an older friend and be there for them as they approach death. Strong friendships are a better guarantee of having someone there with you if you fear death. The reality is that everyone dies alone, unless you plan to take everyone else down with you! I think it depends on your age. Younger people may be more satisfied without a relationship if they don't have one already, but the human need to procreate is hard wired into us.

I used to not worry about relationships. But now that I'm late middle aged, I'm scared of dying alone, although I honestly don't want to negotiate the way couples do on a day to day basis. For example, if I want to take a nap, I take a nap. I can be spontaneous without having to check with my partner, or always having to 'share' my feelings. Yet the fear of being alone is still there.

It's a real fear. I find myself saying 'So this is my life. This is what Its all come down to. Just me in my little house.

Hey anonymous, You sound really young. But I ask you a question. Are your parents still married? Having a long relationship makes life easier in the practical sense too (not to mention sex, affection, company etc). You clean the house together so that is less work. You may have someone who cooks for you sometimes or takes you out or washes your clothes.or just asks you how are you? And you feel good telling them you are sad and this is why.

It is better to be single than a bad relationship but when a relationship is really good, it is better than being happy and single cause still those practical things are divided. Yes you can have friends to do all that for you or with you but you have to call them and make an arrangement and they may not be there when you really need them cause they also have their lives with others. So in a nutshell, you do not need a relationship for having kids.a lot of people have kids without any relationships. You need a relationship (if you want) because it makes the mundane of living better and easier. I completely disagree with your comment.

You are clearly one of those people that just doesn't understand and has an internal need to be in a couple. I am 40 and much more happy not being in a relationship. If I meet someone I genuinely like, I give it a try, but find I rather be by myself after a while. Making housework easier is such a ridiculous reason to NEED a relationship. I take care of a 3000sf house by myself along with a large garden and yard. I thoroughly enjoy doing it alone!

I have a great family and friends I spend time with regularly and that is enough for me. And my 3 dogs, can't forget them! Trying to get sex is hard, painful, time consuming and very frustrating. The clothes women wear make it very hard to concentrate on anything. Having a partner at least dulls the frustration allowing for other things to occupy the brain. Since I know my wife inside and out I can ignore body and focus on her which is nice because it sucks that I turn into an idiot when there's cleavage and yoga pants.

By the way this comment doesn't really apply to women and the lower the testosterone the less the frustration. I got sex two days ago, sex yesterday, never more than a few days goes by without. When single it can be months, even into years because of the effort involved. Note: I love my wife for more than just sex. Can't be with someone for a decade and not develop a strong friendship but I wouldn't be able to keep it up if she decided to stop the sex. With today's outfits sexual frustration is horrible.

Constant tease and for that reason I very much dislike being single. People are happier if they live in a house instead of an apartment. So, how would/could we prove this?

If you want to buy a house, and you bought one, you probably feel happy. If you want to buy a house and you haven't bought one, you're probably unhappy. You seem to be making this kind of jump in logic. If someone WANTS to be married and they aren't, they're probably not happy being unmarried. But, if they don't want to be married what will matter is only if they're a happy person IN GENERAL or not. I really don't get why we keep studying something that we can't POSSIBLY know the answer to.

Very good points! I recently realized that I am much happier when I'm not in a relationship. It took a while because society is so relationship driven they make you feel like you are wrong to not want a relationship. This article keeps stating 'just as happy single or in a relationship.' It never says anything about being happier single. I was having a lazy Sunday in my house, thinking how happy I was and how annoying it would be if someone else was there.

I never feel lonely and don't really understand why people are so driven to be in a relationship. Sure, sex is great, but it isn't everything. I'm perfectly happy doing that myself, too. The only thing that I don't like doing alone is travelling. And then there are people who are happier in an apartment, possibly because apartments are easier to maintain, may have more light and be closer to the centre of town and its amenities.

Which is the other side of your statement (which I don't disagree with) -- some people don't want to be married and are actively happier that way. Unfortunately our society tends to value house-owners / married people and brush contented apartment-owners / unmarried people to one side as though they somehow didn't count.

No, the original commenter meant to say 'causal,' not 'casual.' If you read the research in this area, Dr. DePaulo has published a lot of work showing that singles are stereotyped as being miserable and lonely.

She often points out that the research showing marriage is correlated with happiness (and it's actually a pretty weak correlation) does not imply marriage CAUSES happiness (i.e., correlation does not imply causation). So she was thanking the authors of the article for not making a causal inference based on a correlational finding. Innate nature of mankind is happiness. Look at the babies, children. They don't make it by far conditional. As inputs of edu, names and norms, labels and expectations keep piling up.

Well what was natural joy, gradually gets related to specifics. Many choose to remain single in India too of late for many reasons. Can't generalize. When one's outlook broadens, learns to restore joy without tags.

Say looking at the morning or even sky and sun, trees and birds, playing kids, rendering helping hand to others - even on small small things - without any expectation. The happiness could be real and enduring - be single or double. In fact it would multiply in geometric proportion around in due course.? I'd like to know why those that perform studies are enamored with finding out whether married people are happier or not. I'd like to know why it is so important for people to be happy. I'd like to know why it is so important to find out whether single people are making an effort to become happier, and specifically, happier by getting married. I'd like to know why people who do studies find the state of being married is so important.

Here are some other study subjects: Find out why married people eat poorly, get fat and don't exercise. Find out why married people don't further their education once they walk down the aisle. Find out why married people take less care of their extended family and friends.

Find out why married people volunteer less and isolate themselves more. Nobody is doing those studies, but their a plenty of studies dissecting single people to see if marriage will improve their mood. No, not a small skewed sample. Every point I made above has been proven through more than one study. You really ought to read more.

Married people isolate. Married people aren't helpers. Married people gain weight. Married people exercise less. Married people spend less time furthering their education Would you like to see more, Glenn? I'll get them. Time, in a couple there's less of it.

Companionship, in a couple you get it consistently. Your questions are not difficult. Weight gain and eating poorly: There's no hunting for a mate, less incentive to be perfect. If there are kids or a non earner there's more food needed and less per capita dollars. Very hard and time consuming, very expensive. There's less need if one partner is already educated.

Debt falls both partners. Couples make bigger purchases like a house leading g to less time.

Kids make it almost impossible. Take less care of their gamy and friends?

They care for each other, again it's time, easy. I'm guessing every one has been researched, you just haven't looked. I'm the happily single person with the 'avoidance goal' personality type becoming the 'seeking for a relationship soon' to be just as happy with the 'approach goal' type. From my personal experience, I can tell that I was the 'avoidance goal' responsible citizen type fighting my own inner battles to which included a relationship with myself.

People, like me, that grew up in a dysfunctional upbringing, can understand and relate to that. Once I overcame these battles, made peace with it all and now I can live in harmony and happily with myself, I feel like I can be experimenting with love beyond myself. Not the better or the worst, not the happier or unhappier.

Just the different kind of happiness, the exchange with a mate kind, the shareable one. The just as happy kind of relationship. The one we get to have after learning how to be happily alone.

I'm not just as happy when I'm single, I'm much happier. I feel constrained in relationships. I've never developed the habit of having to give my plans to others ahead of time. I'm organized at work, but when I'm done, if I feel tired, I'll go home, read and sleep.

If I am energetic, I find friends on Facebook who might want to go for a pint or dinner, like right now. I'm not organized in my personal life, when I'm at my best energetically, I want to build, so I spend my best energy on work. People feel left out, which makes me feel guilty, but I'm unhappy when my intellectual quests stagnate. So the easiest is always to let the person who I can't satisfy go. And then I'm happy again, no more guilt, no more trying to be happy to see someone when I'm tired, no more having to sacrifice spur if the moment events.

Some people are not as happy alone, we are happier alone. Cohabiting is often used to deem folks in a relationship like a married couple but not legally married. However, this a bit false to an extent to generalize. Living arrangements with people and relationships are often difficult to quantify. What is being 'single', and is there a difference with men vs.

It seems that women are more comfortable being with woman and single than men. Many folks transition from male to female than female to male by far.

Women often do things with eachother and play and bond in ways different than men. This is a fact. Being single of course is not solidarity, folks may socialize on a regular basis with people at work, family, friends,etc. This is obvious but what a person who is 'married' but who's spouse is in another country or nursing home.

What about folks in relationship casually dating but not so romanticly so and living together. What about folks who 'live together', and are married but do not talk to eachother. Especially in cities where population density is key many different men and women may live together as roomates. As folks age and in a different sense many desire less romantic relationships and may have casual relations with the same or opposite sex.

In Muslim countries contact with the opposite gender may be limited, this is less so in non-muslim countries, in one wants to interact with the opposite gender they pretty much need to get married. Also, in the US marriage is tied to taxes,health insurance, social security,etc some folks due to the recession can't afford a divorce live together but in separate areas or floors. Hi Alex, You're right that studies may obtain different results, depending on whether or not they are examining married individuals who are involved in non-marital relationships.

In the two studies described in this particular article, they compared coupled (not necessarily married) individuals to uncoupled individuals. In the first study, with college students, only a small portion of the couples were married or living together and the average relationship length was 2 and a half years. Whereas with the larger study of a wide sample of adults most of the couples were married with a substantial minority living together, and the average relationship length was 22 years. Thanks for writing on this issue.

I am a divorced man in late forties. I recognize myself to be a securely attached with a happy predisposition towards life. I wanted to share my happiness with someone as happy.I tried genuinely to find a good companion with clarity of thought, independence & above all integrity.Majority of women in this age bracket i.e. Post forty, are either never married due to their avoidant attachment style or are those that are open to remarriage with a conspicuous insecure attachment style, so prone to repeat the behaviour patterns of their previous failed relationship. After a lot of efforts it became clear to me that even after compromising on primary attributes it is close to impossible to find someone dependable & honest. I reached a state where I am happy & content with my life as it is.

Yet, I am open to find someone good. I could easily say you are avoidant type.

You are avoiding all those women over 40 (millions of millions of them) before you even met them. Just like you are single and probably have your own insecurity, you should be able to really just listen to the individual stories of these women.rather than lumping them together. Another person could say same thing about late 40s men who is divorced.oohhh noooo! So become extremely acquaint with your own shortcomings and notice how you attract those that have exactly the same thing and it repulses you.then you change to what you truly want and boom you attract the positive women. The way you are now, you are meeting women just like you.

No better or no less. The article doesn't take into account another factor. Some of us have endured very troubled marriages.

We have been abused physically, verbally, mentally, and emotionally. Our trust has been destroyed, and we are gun-shy. We meet a nice guy and start to think, 'Maybe.' And we get a little interested. Then, the wall starts to creep up around our heart, and we start to doubt again. We start to look for those signs we missed the first time around, with that first guy.

We see one, and we shut down. It's frustrating for us, because we almost don't want to trust again. We don't know how to trust again. Hi Linda The first step is to acknowledge you are on the line of fire.seeking a relationship when everything in your past says relationships are bad business. You are no different than a person who had a bad childhood. A person hurt, abused, and demeaned by the people who supposed to love them from the first day they were worn. We all have wounds.

The question is do we measure others by our wounds or try as hard as it may be to see each person as individual or as collective. It is not easy but the mere fact you are noting the triggers is a good start. I wish you the best finding peace. I think (this is my personal opinion only) that whenever someone says I like to do something because it is easier, they are avoiding pain.and as long as (humans) avoiding pain we are not living fully or authentically.

If you truly find solo life is your destiny that is OK but if you think it is just because it is easier than it means you are not happy with it but you are at it by resignation. This is no different than a man/woman staying in a bad marriage cause arghhh it is easy to stay in than leave and find another one. Nothing is deep-seated.

You met your ex as an adult maybe even as a child. Your thoughts and your attachments are deep-seated and they are because you made them.

When something is deep-seated, it is still in our subconscious and still drives us and guides us. Ask yourself are you still driven by what your ex did to you? Your ex came and damage you in some ways but you are bigger than his damage. You are still here so this proves you are stronger than when you met him back in the day.the question is why should that one experience (out of millions of other experience you have had) should determine your status in finding relationship or being single not because it is easier but because wow! It is exactly what you always wanted. Even if you do not find another relationship again, it is worth to at least free the mind from 'it is easier chains'. I believe that, from a very early age and through an insidious process of socialization, conditioning and indoctrination (due in no small part to our education system), we are duped into believing that we must place conditions on our happiness.

One “condition” that we are hypnotised into believing (through the medium of fairy tales, popular music and Hollywood propaganda) is the notion that to be truly happy one must be in a relationship. I don’t believe this to be true.

On the physical level we will always feel incomplete as we are one half of a whole; and this desire for wholeness finds its ultimate expression in sexual consummation. But, even then, we are prey to what the philosopher Alan Watts called “the skin-encapsulated ego”. By that he meant that ultimately your “world” is personal, private, unshareable, intimately your own. Nobody can enter it, see as you see, hear as you hear, feel your emotions or think your thoughts. In your world you are truly alone, hypnotised by an ever changing dream you call your life. This sense of isolation is the driving force behind our desire for a relationship. We long for someone who’ll help us feel less estranged, fragmented and fearful.

But therein lays the problem. We are looking outside of ourselves i.e. To the other person, to fix an internal problem.

We therefore place expectations on the other person that the other person will never be able to fulfil. In fact, after the initial euphoria of the early days of romantic relationship, one can soon feel even more isolated, estranged and fearful as it gradually dawns that, what was once perceived as an angel sent from heaven, to fix your inner turmoil and existential angst, is actually just another isolated, fearful, estranged individual who’s just as screwed up as yourself! Then, instead of a meeting of two worlds it’s more like the war of the worlds! Not that I’m cynical or anti-relationship, only that I believe the reason most people are in relationships is out of a sense of need and a strong sense of validation-seeking and approval-seeking behaviour; not to mention the unrealistic expectation of security and safety that relationships are supposed to foster. Conversely, people who feel less isolated, less fearful and more connected to the world are less likely to view relationships as a substitute for some inner sense of emptiness and lack. Of course, research tends to confirm the view that relationships foster a longer life and better health; but only because, I feel, the people who were the subjects of such studies do have certain needs met within a relationship that engender such benefits, but one can’t conclude from such studies that those needs are dependent on a relationship for their satisfaction.

I love how you articulated the need for a relationship. I am not as good of writer as you but I have to say what is the flip side of your hypothesis. Can you reach that place where you are absolutely at peace with yourself (no fear, no isolation) complete serenity and still manage a relationship. I think you can. You are right we are programmed to have relationships.

Only until you actually have relationship (for most people) do you realize no this is not it. There is more to live than just having a relationship.then you search for more.and may find it. You may leave the relationship for pursue of that.or you may stay in the relationship cause it is not barrier to that deep peace of oneself. I think as humans (or as animals.we are no different.we all have same DNA.just different times).

We have the capacity to be fully peaceful self and sustained and also the capacity to be fully peaceful self, sustained and still be in a relationships. You can look relationships for intrinsic reasons (as you illustrated) or for extrinsic reasons like helping each other on earth. It is just as easy to be alone and happy as it is to be happy(I prefer peaceful in the mind) and be in relationship. It is not one is better than the other.it is are you at peace? Are you at your ultimate space in time?

Does not matter you are alone or in a relationship? Are you authentic to self and environment? A good, peaceful, meaningful relationship is just as good as a good, peaceful, meaningful solo life.

But as animals we sort of physically still need to help each other to survive.I rather have a person (who is at my most peace of course) to cook, clean, and help with life and have sex of course than do all the things above alone forever. It is a spectrum.either end is desirable to most people. The question that starts the thread was a person asking why even have a relationship?

Because the person was asking a question so basic in human I was trying to provide a practical answer beside the obvious one of attachment, love and caring each other.I assumed the person must know that but still thinks maybe there is more. You do not need a servant.

You could get one who does everything as a lot of people do having nannies, cleaners, gardeners and drivers.but at the end, you want a person whom you have emotional attachment, and a peaceful connection (not just any connection) and there is some sexual element.could be affection or full blown sex.that is having a healthy relationship. What most people have is a person living with them that treats them like that servant you mentioned. And that is a relationship but it is missing the most important element - peace living! This article doesn't point out how single people are happier than married ones but just a study. There are many people who have never been taught what love is and how to treat their mate.

Relationships are hard work. Unless you are the one in dothing relationship which are hard to find. Many people have job work conflicts are simply tired of the 'cheating ' aspects in relationships. While I agree having relationships can be healthy, provided you are in a healthy and stable on(which are rare now a days), Many people feel Free' being single.

What I want to know is why people are not talking about being single and mentally healthy. Anytime I go online, they make singleness sound like something people should be ashamed of and avoided like the plague. I have found more new relationships and friendships with people, more passions, and learned how not to be co-dependant on people as a single person. Why doesn't someone address BEING SINGLE IS JUST AS HEALTHY AS BEING MARRIED? Neither one is better than the other.

Everyone is not cut out for marriage, just like not every woman is cut out for motherhood, just like people would go crazy if they aren't in a relationship. I know someone who settles for a marriage where her husband lives with his parents and he pays the bills at her place.

They meet up every now and then for sex but that's it. He cheats on her constantly, verbally and physically abuses her. She has told me several times, I'm jealous because she is in a relationship and I'm not.umm.my response.JEALOUS OF WHAT? I love and value myself too much to deal with a situation and man like that. Being single for whatever reason, doesn't mean life will be boring, unfulfilling, unhappy, etc. If you are a happy person, you will be happy whether single or in a relationship and the same goes if you are a miserable person.You just have to find other passions, talents, creativity, etc to stay occupied!